How to stop comparing yourself to others

Know Thyself.

We are all judged. It is our inherent nature as humans to seek the best and to have the best. But different people want different things from their lives and thus, the definition of success varies from person to person. Then why do we keep comparing ourselves to others when we want different things from life and have our own unique goals and aspirations? Because the society at large does not care how happy you are with yourself but how successful you are according to society’s definition of success. It judges you on how famous you are, how much money you make, what you do for a living, what positions you hold or what organization(s) you are a part of or run. To the passerby, your definition of success has no value if society does not consider your craft worthy, and you are unlikely to get any approval from it. But approval is not what you are after, are you? Live to make a difference and true success will come to you. Many painters, like Monet and Van Gogh, were not appreciated and in fact were rejected by society while they were alive. These artists continued producing great pieces of art despite rejection because they truly believed in themselves and their craft and perhaps in their minds they already had reached success.

Believe in yourself. You do not need to be better than everyone else, you just need to be your best. You are unique as you are, so be the best unique you.

#1 Define your own success. Don’t let your friends, parents or peers do it for you. The more clear you are about what you want the more likely it is that you will attain it. There is nothing in this world you cannot do; the real question is how bad do you really want it? Think big, start small and when you finally meet your goals, celebrate in style. When you know what you want and you are progressing steadily towards that, the world can wait.

#2 Realize your potential. When you are truly aware of your capabilities your goal will not be ‘to be richer than John’ or ‘to be more famous than Sam’. You will see limitless possibilities. You will see countless solutions. What others say or do will not matter because you will be flying in the rare air zone. You will have no time to dwell in slothful comparison – for you will be busy doing.

#3 Get to work. An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory. Whenever you find yourself complaining about your life and comparing your state to other’s, realize that you wasting valuable time feeling sorry for yourself when you can use that time to create something amazing and breathtaking.

#4 Compete with yourself. Every one of us is good at something; study yourself, nurture your nature and build upon the best that is in you. And if you really do have to compare to measure your success, compare yourself to your past self because you grow the most when you are competing against yourself. And fortunately or unfortunately you can never say ‘I’ve made it’ because the only person you are competing with is you. Because you can always be better tomorrow than you are today.

#5 Realize we are all imperfect. We only see the good side of others and draw a comparison to our seemingly wretched lives. The truth is we are all learning as we go. Learn to accept who you are; learn to accept your flaws; learn to share your vulnerabilities and focus on the good things about yourself. Once you accept your flaws and failures you will be liberated from the mental measures of your mind. Realize we are all imperfect and we are all learning as we go. Life is meant for accomplishing wonders and doing great things, and you have the power to do that regardless of how flawed or incompetent you might think you are.

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You are unique. You have a gift no one else in the world has.
Believe in yourself. Know who you are.
Realize the infinite potential within you.

Live so big that you are beyond comparison. Shine as bright as you can, for there may be a million stars in the galaxy, but you can be the master of your own cosmos.